Ever think: How long will it take me to get over my ex? You’re not alone - it’s the million-dollar question…
Despite the fact that this is a frequent question, there is of course no right answer. The truth is, how long it takes you to get over your ex depends entirely on you, your attitude, your mindset, the type of relationship you had with your ex, the length of time you were together, the circumstances surrounding the breakup (for instance if she cheated on you then your ego may have taken a big hit and it may take you slightly longer to get over it) and so on.
Having said that, the question itself ( how long to get over an ex ) may not be the real question you need to ask. If you’re having trouble getting over an ex, then you should be asking how do I get over my ex? then it’s after all, what you are trying to achieve - the end goal.
The good news is that you can start putting the past behind you fairly quickly with very little effort - all it takes is a little knowledge.
Some people take weeks to get over an ex. Most people take months! Allow yourself to feel relieved at this: you’re not strange in any way. In fact, you’re like most people.
The fact of the matter is that most people have trouble not just getting over an ex, but with accomplishing things in general. And getting over an ex is just that: an accomplishment; a goal; something that you wish to achieve. It is not different then than getting a better job, or learning a new skill (the feelings are, but not the concept).
Once you understand this, the reason why you may be strugging to get over your ex becomes clearer. The fact is that the very first thing you need to do to get over your ex, is to MAKE A DECISION. This is the single most important thing you can do with regards to ANYTHING in life.
The reason why so many people never achieve what they want, is simply because they never made a decision to do so.
Make a decision right now: do you want your ex back, or not?
If you choose yes, then make a plan to help you achieve this. If you choose no, then make a plan to help you get out of this state of mind.
Decide RIGHT NOW that you are NOT going to keep feeling like this. It stops NOW.
