Hey. I’ll keep it simple.
A long time ago, I went through a tough breakup. I don’t even remember it now. It’s dust. (In fact, I’ve been very happily hitched for a long time now). But at the time it felt like a terrible experience. I moped around for a bit, then I decided to take control and change things – because I realised the world was not coming to the rescue. In fact, nobody was. It was down to me.
When I emerged triumphantly at the other end of the tunnel, I was a different – much improved – person. Full of confidence, drive, and happiness.
I’ll be honest: it took me a while to fumble my way forward. I made a lot of mistakes that cost me a lot of time. Lost time. Wasted. Time I can’t ever get back. This mistakes were clear to me in hindsight, but almost impossible to see when you’re at the other end of this. I’m talking about things like where your thoughts should be, what you should be focusing on, what you should be doing and – more importantly – not doing after the breakdown of a relationship. Things that will make a mess of you if you don’t deal with them in the right way.
When I was clear, I decided to write down everything I had done, that worked, to get me out of the rut. Thinking back, I think I wrote it for myself, as a guide, to ‘never go there’ again. It had taken such a chunk of time to deal with, that I vowed never to make the same mistake again. It was my get out of jail card.
When my notes were complete, I decided to create a guide for other people going through a breakup. I broke down the entire thing into 7 powerful steps. All these steps are necessary: they are not optional. Without a guide, you may – in time – stumble upon a few of the steps, but miss out the others and you’ll be little different to when you started out – before your breakup. This will leave you open to making the same mistakes, over and over.
Imagine trying to get over your ex, time and time again (a different ex each time). It’s not so much the ‘going through hell’ feeling that you may go through, the feeling down and depressed… it’s the amount of time that this will cost you that scares me the most.
Remember: time is the most important thing you have.
Now… I’m not a selfless hero: I charge for the book. It will cost you the same as a couple of coffees. Shocking, I know. But I worked long and hard on it, and it took many rewrites to get to the finish product.
But I will be blunt with you: if you don’t think a 7 step guide to help you bypass months of mental torture is worth $37, then you’re in for a hard life (not only with getting over your ex, but with everything in general). Respect your own time.
Since I published the book, some years ago, I have received many e-mails and much praise from grateful readers from many different countries. My simple system helped them. That – more than anything – made it all worthwhile. Ultimately, helping somebody and being acknowledged for doing so brings its own reward: feeling great. Feeling accomplished and purposeful.
I removed dozens of testimonials from my website a long time ago, because the FTC (the people who decide what is false advertising and what isn’t) made it difficult for somebody like me to understand what is acceptable and what isn’t. As far as I can figure out, you have to show good and bad testimonials. This is why you see disclaimers like ‘results are not typical’ on some websites.
I decided it was best not to show any testimonials. Instead, I give away 1 step of my system, so that you can put it into action and decide for yourself if you think this will work for you. A full step (step 1) will help you immensely. Trust me.
Sounds like a fair deal to me.
By the way, there are many testimonials floating around in Amazon (.com, .co.uk etc) Barnes and Noble, Lulu.com and other places if you wish to read them (those are not my websites so I can’t remove those testimonials – nor do I want to: they’re all excellent).
One last thing: there is a lot of free content online (try searching for: break up advice, heartache advice etc). Most of this content is generated by teeny weenies who hit puberty last week. Stop wasting your time consuming free content from people who you wouldn’t take life advice from. Go crazy and invest $37 in yourself (that’s the price of the book) and get this thing nailed and over and done with quickly and systematically. If you’re seriously sitting on the fence over $37 to get yourself out of an all-consuming situation, then take the free download, read it and see the difference between real advice and something written on a free blog to claim a piece of online fame.
That’s all from me. Enjoy.
To a healthy mind
J, NLP qualified author
Broken Relationship Questions
Does the book use NLP to get over an ex?
The steps and much of the content in the book is based on sound NLP principles. A big part of getting over an ex is mastering your mind to an extent. This is where NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) comes in.
Can I use NLP to get over my ex girlfriend?
Yes. NLP can help you reframe perspectives and gain great control over your conscious mind. If you want to find out more about NLP I recommend reading this entry. How to Get Over Your Ex is largely based on NLP, which I studied at Richard Bandler’s school of NLP.
How long should it take to get over an ex
Everybody is different. The one thing I can guarantee is this: it will take you longer to get over a breakup if you just let things happen to you and you ‘wait it out’, than if you get proactive and do something about it. My advise is to invest in some material to help you get over your ex. Download step 1 of my book (it’s free) and see if that’s a good fit for you.
How to get over an ex girlfriend who cheated on you
The answer is the same as the above. It also depends on how you interpret the things around you. Are they happening ‘to you’ or are they just ‘happening’? Did she cheat on you to hurt you? Or was she unfaithful because she’s ‘cheap’ and without morals? If the latter, then it has nothing to do with you. Why are you choosing to take on that burden?
How to get over an ex girlfriend who has moved on
The whole point is that you should be moving on with your life. Figure this out, or educate yourself in the ways to get over this as soon as possible. Every hour you delay is one hour gone from your life.
How to get over an ex when you see them everyday
You may be in a situation where you have to see your ex. You may have it tougher than others, so you’ll need to strengthen that backbone. Arm yourself with the necessary tools to get past this. Don’t leave it to time and chance. And stop punishing yourself (download my free step 1 and get that fist step nailed and out of the way. It will help you).
How to get over an ex when you still love them
It takes 2 to Tango. If she doesn’t love you then stop wasting your time. Read the above answer as it also applies to this question.
How to get over an ex who is dating someone else
What your ex does and doesn’t do has nothing to do with you. ‘Ex’ means just that. Gone. Past. You don’t control your ex. This question is a sign of emotional immaturity. My advise is to educate yourself with the right materials.
How to get over an ex who treated you badly
Take a deep look inside your mind. Are you hurting because she treated you badly, or because you let yourself be treated badly? I think this question is rooted in a personal issue that you need to solve. Assuming that your perception of bad treatment is not skewed, your ex treated you badly because you let her treat you badly. I would start by asking myself who else are you allowing to treat you badly.
How to get over an ex who was your best friend
You need to identify whether you’re trying to get over your ex, or over a best friend. Since your question implies the latter, the answer is: in the same way that you would get over an ex best friend.